Archive for the 'Older Child Adoption' Category

A Haitian Adoption Story

The Washington Post ran this heartwarming story today about adoption from Haiti. Ila Yslande Ann Hubner, now 4 years old, was an orphan in Port-au-Prince, Haiti. The Hubner family had been trying to adopt Ila for four years, her homecoming continually delayed by bureaucrasy, when the massive earthquake hit Haiti in January 2010. The plight of orphans after the earthquake prompted Haitian and U.S. officials to expedite the adoption process for families who had already been in the adoption process when the earthquake struck. Just 11 days after the earthquake, little Ila arrived at Orlando airport in an aircraft carrier to meet her adoptive family. Her adoption was finalized last Thursday in the Circuit Court of Frederick County, Maryland.

I liked that the Post article was honest about the challenges of adopting an older child without being defeatist. The article mentions that Ila struggled with health problems, behavioral problems, and the kind of emotional and sleep disturbances that are typical of children who have survived trauma. But the article also takes note that the Hubners are working through these problems day by day, and greatly enjoying the many joys of having Ila in their family.

What did you think of the story? Post your impressions in the comments or email me at evaughan (at) vaughanfirm (dot) com.

Do you have more questions about adoption? Contact The Vaughan Firm to speak with an adoption attorney.

The Adoption Tax Credit: The Basics

Kudos to The Dave Thomas Foundation for posting this informative video explaining the Adoption Tax Credit, including the recent changes to it, in simple terms. If you are adopting or thinking about adopting, check it out!

Do you have more questions about adoption? Contact The Vaughan Firm to speak with an adoption attorney.

Book Review: Toddler Adoption: The Weaver’s Craft

If you have adopted a toddler, you may be feeling a bit left out. Most adoption support groups, books, and other resources tend to focus on families who are adopting newborns. During the waiting period to adopt, this may not stand out, as waiting for a newborn is very similar to waiting for a toddler to come home. However, once your child arrives, you may begin to feel isolated as you start to face different issues than your friends who adopted newborns. It isn’t you: Adopting a toddler really is different!

Fortunately, there is a wonderful resource for new adoptive parents of toddlers in the book Toddler Adoption: The Weaver’s Craft by Mary Hopkins-Best (Perspectives Press 1997). Hopkins-Best and her husband adopted an 18-month-old boy from Peru and found themselves unprepared for the special issues that newly adopted toddlers present. Her book is a must-read for anyone who is even considering adopting a toddler. It includes a section on how to determine whether toddler adoption is right for you, the specific issues toddlers present, attachment challenges, child development, behavior management, and tips for easing the transition into your home. Finally, Hopkins-Best includes a chapter on taking care of your own needs as a parent while also looking after the needs of these very needy little people. Each chapter includes several personal stories from the parents of children adopted as toddlers, including 26 families who took an extensive questionnaire for this book.

There is something in Toddler Adoption for families at every stage of the adoption process, from those just considering whether adopting an older child might be right for them to families who have already adopted a toddler. I especially loved the way that Hopkins-Best conveys the joys and advantages of toddler adoption as well as its challenges, and that she does so in a way that only a parent who had experienced toddler adoption could do. Her material on child development and attachment is well-researched and thorough, and her tips for bringing your adopted child home for the first time are invaluable for parents – but even more so for the little people in their care during this difficult time. A short list of resources in the back helps connect parents with more support and information.

Most of all, the message that shines through Toddler Adoption is that you are not alone. The book allows you to benefit from the wisdom of many other parents who have experienced the special challenges – and special rewards – of toddler adoption.

Do you have more questions about adoption? Contact The Vaughan Firm to speak with an adoption attorney.

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